Reflecting on Two REALLY BIG Anniversaries ~ Kennedy & Lincoln

America celebrated two HUGE anniversaries in U.S. History this week.  The first occurred on Tuesday, November 19th with the 150th Anniversary of President Abraham Lincoln’s delivery of the Gettysburg Address.  The second occurs on Friday, November 22nd, with the 50th Anniversary of the assassination of President John F. Kennedy. 

There are a few, select dates in American History that virtually anyone alive at the time remembers.  Think April 14, 1865 and December 7, 1941, or November 22, 1963 and September 11, 2001. 

Where were you when President Kennedy was assassinated?  If you were alive and over the age of five in 1963, chances are you not only remember the day, but can recall where you were and what you were doing as well.  

While attending grade school in the late 1980s and early 1990s, I remember hearing teachers talk about their personal memories of that fateful day.  I recall my fascination that they were alive on such an important – albeit tragic – date in American History.  I recently e-mailed some family members querying their memories from the day Kennedy was shot, and each one that responded had memories to share. 

My generation's “Kennedy” moment came on 9-11.  Like those with memories of '63, I remember with crystal clarity where I was, and what I was doing that terrible day in '01.  

A 22-year old college freshman at Utah Valley University, I was on my way to attend an early morning worship service at the Provo, Utah LDS Temple. I recall a radio announcer somewhat flippantly announcing how a plane had apparently struck one of the towers of the World Trade Center.  Word had not yet spread accurately, and his assumption was that some crazy – perhaps drunk – pilot had gone and crashed a little plane into the mammoth building with little collateral damage.  Based on the tone, attitude, and misinformation of this uninformed radio announcer, I thought little of the news as I arrived at the Temple, parked my car, and turned off the radio.  

Two hours later, when I returned to my car and turned the radio back on, it was a very different story.  Nearly every channel was spreading the unthinkable news.  HELL had broken loose in Lower Manhattan and the World was watching as its pillars of power crumbled into a fiery plume of destruction.  When I returned to my apartment, I glued myself to the television screen.  Tears came to my eyes as I beheld the horror replayed over and over.  It was surreal – unearthly – like nothing I had ever experienced before.

That night, my roommate began running all around the neighborhood like Paul Revere warning of gas prices shooting to $5 a gallon, which, in 2001, would have been truly calamitous news.  His warnings turned out to be unnecessary, but I’ll never forget the sober pall that was cast over the nation in the days to come – the candlelight services, the prayers, and Enrique Iglesias’ song Hero playing repeatedly on the radio. 

While it is tragic that such events such as 11-22 and 9-11 occur in the first place, it always amazes me the profound effects  – some of them positive –  it has on those who experience them.  Indeed, the development of vital human qualities such as humility, reverence, sobriety, gratitude, and reflectiveness would be much more difficult without disappointments, failures, grief, and yes, even tragedy.  Such moments induce deep reflection, and invite us to ponder the meaning of life, and our individual purpose here on Earth.  They create an opportunity to consider things we normally wouldn’t amidst the hustle and bustle of our busy schedules, endless task lists, and the relatively meaningless minutia of life. 

Fortunately, such tragic moments don’t happen every day.  I would never wish such terrible events on any person or nation.  Yet I believe there is great value that can be found in both dealing with and reflecting back on such dates in our history – what they meant for the people who experienced the events, and what they mean to us now.

Taking time out to remember and memorialize the tragic events of yesteryear remind us how fragile human life is, and fill us with gratitude for its remarkable gift for which we are all partakers.  May this day of reflection and memorial be a day of personal reflection that will make you a better person made more grateful and compassionate by the time and effort you invest in reflection. 

To help in this reflection, I encourage perusal (click on link) of the following websites and/or other materials. 









- Romance Nails -

Je suis d'humeur romantique ces derniers jours et j'ai eu envie d'un nail art tout doux, tout kawaii et avec plusieurs techniques différentes.
Un peu de pois, de lignes, de stamping, d'holographique, de paillettes et de 3D. Oui rien que ça !! J'ai juste tarder à prendre les photos en fait.


J'ai tout mis sur une base rose "Boom Boom Room" de Essie recouvert du fameux top coat holographique "Djinn in the Bottle"  de Enchanted Polish. Et du coup c'est la première fois que je vous le montre sur moi ce petit holo, j'en ai mis qu'une couche. 

Stop les blablas, passons aux photos ;D



Et un zoom pour mieux apercevoir Djinn



J'espère que vous aimez autant que moi !!!



From Orphan to Executive: Self-Action Leadership in Real Life

Today I share the real life Self-Action Leadership story of Dr. Nathaniel J. Williams. 
Little Nat Williams started out life as an orphan in the Bronx with all the strikes against him.  The 11th of 12 children, Nat never knew his father, and attended his mother's funeral at age five.  He still remembers the five taxis all lined up to haul him and his nine brothers and sisters under the age of 18 to different foster homes throughout New York City.  

It was in a foster home a few years later that Nat had an experience that would forever change his life.  The value of the experience was discovered not in what happened, but in how Nat chose to interpret the experience and allow it to influence his behavior.  Here is what happened...
One day while eagerly waiting for his brothers and sisters to come visit, the van they were riding in broke down; they would not be coming after all.  

Saddened by this disappointment, Nat sat alone on the front septs of the foster home's administrative office brooding in his sorrow.  Just then, the director of the foster home -- Sister Mary Patrick -- appeared like a rescuing angel with a bicycle for Nat.  

Thrilled and grateful, Nat rode off to show his "cottage mates" the new treasure.  Then, while watching one of them ride the new bike around, Nat had a life changing prompting.  He realized that if he wasn't careful, then "telling a sad story and waiting for a handout" would dominate the narrative of the rest of his life.  

That wasn't the life story Nat wanted told, and from that moment, he began setting his sights high.  He even began signing his name: Nathaniel J. Williams, Executive Director, a practice that spawned derision from many of his peers.
"People were always making fun of me, saying: 'why the hell are you saying you're an executive director, and why are you signing your name that way?'  But it gave me a pathway.  I often say to people, if it's not written, it's not going to happen, so by me just writing down what I wanted to do, it made it very clear, so when drugs, alcohol, or other things came my way, I was able to plan my work and then work my plan, and was able to say yes or no to things based on what I wanted to do with my life."
Along the way, Nat developed a diligent work ethic that empowered his success.  At age 28, he founded a company that is now a conglomerate of nine different organizations focused on human care services that help others in need.  Today, this organization has an operating budget of over 12 million dollars and employs over 200 people, and guess who the Executive Director is?  That's right, Nat Williams, who, along the way, also managed to squeeze into his schedule time to earn four -- that's right -- FOUR advanced degrees, including a Master of Health Sciences (MHS), a Masters of Public Administration (MPA), a Masters of Business Administration (MBA), and a Doctorate in Education (Ed.D.).  

Even more significant than his professional success is his personal success, which includes being a loving husband, and father to eight children.  Dr. Williams' life has demonstrated the Self-Action Leadership power that comes from focusing your time and effort on what you can control -- your own thoughts, speech, and actions, rather than on external difficulties that arise beyond your control.      


Dr. Nat Williams quotables:


"I think that a person has to recognize that you've gotta work with you you got, and you've gotta believe that what you got ain't bad."

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"You've got to recognize and accept what you've been given [and what you haven't been given] and then figure out a way to work with it, and work with others."

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"Everything isn't a burden; everything isn't a challenge; it can be seen as a blessing, and it can be seen as a conduit for major change.  It's just based on the viewpoint that you have and how you look at the situation."

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"You need other people to help you stay on the straight and narrow and you've got to be transparent."

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To read more about Dr. Williams amazing story, click HERE to buy Dr. Jordan Jensen's book on Self-Action Leadership.

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- Black Friday & Cyber Monday -

Les filles qui adooooorent acheter sur internet le savent: une fois par an ont lieu le Black Friday et le Cyber Monday.

Black Friday ? Qu'est-ce que c'est ? 
Le lendemain de Thanksgiving, les américains ont des soldes de dingues dans leurs magasins, donc shopping en folie pendant une journée. C'est un peu l'occasion de se ruer pour acheter des cadeaux de Noël à bons prix !!!

Pourquoi je vous en parle ?
Parce que Sigma offrira les frais de livraisons à l'international ((en First Class International)). Non pas pour 1, mais pour 2 jours !!! Ce qui est plutôt pas mal étant donné que les frais de port sont, pour certaines, un peu cher.
Du coup pas besoin de trop se retenir en vu des frais de livraison ;D

Il vous suffira de vous rendre sur le site de Sigma à partir du 28 Novembre à 9h (heure de Paris) et ce jusqu’au vendredi 30 Novembre à 8h59, de préparer votre panier et de rentrer le code promos BF2013.



Et le Cyber Monday qu'est-ce que c'est ??
C'est le lundi qui suit le Black Friday, mais là pour les sites internet. Puisque le black Friday est consacré plutôt pour les magasins physiques, les magasins en ligne ont fait leurs journée à eux. 

Pourquoi je vous en parle ? 
Parce qu'à cette occasion, Sigma vous propose un jour de solde sur leurs site ou il y aura une sélection de produits à -20%  du 2 Décembre à 9h au 3 Décembre à 8h59 (heure de Paris).
Vous trouverez la liste des produits qui seront soldés juste ici si vous voulez déjà vous faire une idée.

Attention ils ne le sont pas encore ! Mais je vais vous mettre la liste des prix plus bas pour celles qui auront la flemme de calculer lol



Et pour profiter de ces soldes
de -20% rdv sur le site de Sigma  où il vous faudra mettre le code CM2013 lors de la validation de votre panier.



Liste des produits (le prix soldé est indiqué en rose):

Pinceaux
  • E11: $12 ($9.60)
  • E16: $12 ($9.60)
  • E17: $12 ($9.60)
  • E21: $12 ($9.60)
  • E36: $12 ($9.60)
  • E46: $12 ($9.60)
  • E47: $12 ($9.60)
  • E56: $12 ($9.60)
  • P80: $18 ($14.40)
  • P82: $18 ($14.40)
  • P84: $18 ($14.40)
  • P86: $18 ($14.40)
  • P88: $18 ($14.40)
  • Basic Eyes Kit: $69 ($55.20)
  • Make Me Crazy (with colored ferrule): $155 ($124)
  • Make Me Cool (with colored ferrule): $155 ($124)
  • Make Me Blush (with colored ferrule): $155 ($124)
  • Mrs. Bunny Essential (with colored ferrule): $155 ($124)
  • Mrs. Bunny Travel (with colored ferrule): $155 ($124)
Brush Care
  • Spa Glove – Aqua/Pink/Purple/Black: $35 ($28.00)
  • Dry’N Shape: $32 ($25.60)
  • Classic Brush Roll: $17.60 ($14.08)
Makeup
  • Dare Eye Shadow Palette: $29 ($23.50)
  • Flare Eye Shadow Palette: $29 ($23.50)
  • Paris Makeup Palette: $49 ($39.20)
  • Individual Eye Shadows (all): $11 ($8.80)
  •  Eye Shadow Bases Kits: $36 ($28.80)
Accessoires

  • Brow Tweezer: $11 ($8.80)
  • Mirrors (all): $15 or $16.20 ($12.00 or $12.96)




Je vous conseil, suivant ce que vous comptez acheter, de comparer les deux offres pour faire la meilleure affaire ;) 

Bon craquaaaaaaage !!!!!!!!!!! 

 

Self-Action Leadership in Real Life: Success from Chicago's South Side


What does Self-Action Leadership look like in real life?

Meet Felicia Cockrell. Her success story highlights the impact of Self-Action Leadership application in communities where structural inequalities and other difficulties play a prominent role.

Felicia was born in Chicago's infamous "South Side," where drugs, gangs, and murder have been, and continue to be, dangerously prevalent. It is a challenging place to grow up.


Despite these challenges, Felicia utilized Self-Leadership in creatively powerful ways to rise above the obstacles of her surroundings to become very successful -- so successful, in fact, that she landed a job making six figures working for a Fortune 100 Company. She is presently a Project Manager for Google.

Keys to Felicia's Self-Leadership Success included stellar academic performances, involvement in athletics, and working to effectively manage the negative peer pressure that is so prevalent among teenagers.

In her own words:
"I didn't get made fun of a lot because maybe they could tell I wasn't ashamed. I wasn’t really involved with other people who were concerned with making sure I looked cute for the boys. I didn’t really hang out with people like that, which helped me avoid the peer pressure that so strongly pushed other people in my community to focus so much on clothing and image above education and inner security."
By looking inward into her own mind, heart, and soul for direction, Felicia was able to learn how to brush off the immature opinions of would-be nay sayers around her.

"One of the things I’ve seen hurt many people in the inner city is the pressure to not be successful. You would be surprised at how many parents will jab at their kids and say things like: 'You’re never going to ever be anything, so why do you even try?' Tragically, that kind of stuff is said in a lot of households; there is just a lot of negative reinforcement to not achieve goals. The aim is to maintain the status quo, which isn’t anything to brag about. My advice to everyone who faces that kind of pressure and negative reinforcement is to not let anyone bring you down. And believe me, they will try. Some people will even make it their goal in life to bring you down; don’t let them do it!"
Because of her excellent grades, Felicia ended up being accepted into prestigious public (magnet) schools where she continued to work hard and exercise diligent self-discipline and leadership. The result? She was accepted into a top ten engineering school (Purdue) where she eventually earned a Bachelor's Degree in Engineering. She also became an officer in the U.S. Navy where she served for another four years in locations around the Globe. After retiring from the Army, she accepted a job with a major Fortune 100 Company, where she commands a handsome salary as a successful project management professional.

Read Felicia's complete story in my book: Self-Action Leadership: The Key to Everything.

Points to Ponder...

What are some areas in your life where you are allowing Self-Leadership Gravity (peer pressure, what other people think of you, etc.) to prevent you from achieving your goals?

Specifically, what can you do to rise above the negativity that seeks to pull you down and stifle your success? What can you learn from Felicia's story to become more inwardly driven along your pathways to progress?

After pondering these questions, determine an action you can take, write down your goal, and then go to work.

- I'm a little Mermaid -

Coucou !!!
J'ai pas fait d'article depuis un petit moment et je me suis rendue compte que je ne vous avais pas montré ici mon makeup d'Halloween.

Je me suis transformée en sirène......Prête à séduire les marins pour les emmener sous l'océan et les dévorer par la suite mouahahahahahah


J'ai utilisé principalement des fards de ma palette fraulein et quelques fard de la palette crème de couture Sigma.

En bonus. Plume qui s'est invité pendant que je faisais mes photos ^^



Pour celles qui avaient pas vu ces photos, j'espère que ça vous plait =)


The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Speakers and Presenters


 
My son, Tucker, with Stephen Covey's
best-selling personal leadership handbook
The ability to express yourself clearly and confidently in front of a group of people is one of the single greatest skills you can develop.  Eloquent elocution and confident communication immediately establishes good rapport and credibility with others.  In this post, I share 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PUBLIC SPEAKERS that have helped me to garner tremendously positive feedback:

“Jordan was the best instructor I have had – honest – realistic – stayed on topic – not pretentious.  His presentation style was relaxed yet informative and professional.”  
"Jordan kept the seminar running smoothly while fielding all questions and open dialogue.  Jordan's recall of "Quotes" is phenomenal and very applicable to the topics he presents."  
“One of the Best Seminars I’ve ever attended.  The time went like lightning.”

HABIT 1:  Don't announce your weaknesses.  


One of the biggest mistakes I observe amateur speakers make is pre-calling their own perceived shortcomings by telling their audience things like: "I am not very prepared," or "I am soooooo nervous," or "I really hate speaking in public."  To make matters worse, such comments are often the first thing they say upon clutching the microphone.  Announcing your weaknesses will only make them unnecessarily evident to your audience, and adds nothing to your message.  

 
Successful speakers understand that the
speech/presentation is NOT about them.
HABIT 2
:  Be Audience Focused


Being audience focused involves more than just knowing your audience.  It means to understand that giving a speech is not about you and your needs; it is about the audience and their needs.  A successful presenter empowers audience members with new, relevant, and meaningful information that inspires action.  Ask yourself: Is this something my audience will benefit from or just something I want to say?  


HABIT 3:  Use Stories


With few exceptions, my audience members both enjoy and remember stories more than data, facts, or quotes.  While it is possible to have too much of a good thing, stories -- personal and tales of others -- serve as the seasonings of any palatable speech or presentation.  They humanize sterile material and strengthen the relationship you have with your audience.    
“Jordan was excellent!!!  Thank you for delivering the materials in such a clear, concise manner coupled with great stories.” 
 “Jordan told us a great deal about his own journey of self-leadership, which was very authentic and credible” 
“Enjoyed the seminar leader very much, especially his stories.”

 
HABIT 4
:  
Stand up, Speak up, Shut Up


People appreciate presenters that start on time (Stand Up), are credible, confident, and engaging (Speak Up), avoid rambling, and end on time (Shut Up).

HABIT 5:   Practice Makes Progress


Practice doesn't always make perfection, but it does produce progress.  Like anything else, you will get better at public speaking the more you do it.  If you want to become truly refined and polished, there is no magic bullet outside of doing a LOT of speaking.  Each time you take the podium or grab the microphone, you have an opportunity to get better.  Seize those opportunities.  


HABIT 6:  Accept Responsibility for Your Audience


It is not the job of the audience to ensure that your presentation goes well and is well accepted.  It is yours!  Many amateur speaker's fail to realize this and are quick to blame their audience when things go wrong.  

Your audience always knows how you feel about them, whether you want to be there or not, and how knowledgeable and passionate you are about your topic.  If you want your audience to like you, then you must work at liking them.  If you want your audience to be interested and engaged, then you must be interesting and engaging.  If you want your audience to learn and be inspired by your message, then you must be prepared, sincere, and have something meaningful to communicate. 
  

HABIT 7:  Be Yourself  


While you can learn from and be inspired by other speakers, your greatest successes will never come from copying another's mode, style, or pace of delivery.  You must find your own unique voice, and the more you speak, the closer you will come to finding it.  

Do you have any other tips or habits for speaking and presenting that I have left out? Leave a comment and share your thoughts!

Dr. Jordan R. Jensen has presented over 600 speeches and/or seminars in 3 Countries, 44 States, Washington D.C., Puerto Rico, the U.S. Virgin Islands, 5 Provinces of Canada, and 9 Counties throughout the United Kingdom.  He has taught 35 different all-day courses on a variety of topics.  He has trained for major corporations including ConocoPhillips, British Petroleum (BP), U.S. Steel, Terex Cranes, Olympus, and DuPont.  He has also trained for all five branches of the U.S. Military.  He is the author of Self-Action Leadership: The Key to Personal, Professional, & Global Freedom.  He lives in Conroe (Houston) Texas with his wife and son.  For more information about booking Jordan to speak/present at your organization, visit his website at www.freedomfocused.com.

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